Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Marital Discord and that Wooow Feeling

Yes, you heard it here. Only two weeks after celebrating my eleventh wedding anniversary I am now experiencing marital trouble. Though I love my husband, I just don’t know if I can forgive this betrayal. I’m angry, but more than that, I’m hurt. Last Friday he informed me that he intended to go see the remake of Footloose…how could he? This is about more than one hundred and twenty minutes of pseudo-Ren-and-Ariel-wannabees crunkin’ and line-dancing in possibly the last drive-in movie theatre in America. This is about solidarity! Agreement! Principle! And he abandoned the front. I mean, what’s next? Tickets for the Dirty Dancing remake? ‘Cause the last one did sooo well.

Okay, rant over. Had to get that out.

Believe it or not, Benedict Simone is not the subject of my post today. It’s about that “Wooow” feeling. Kind of similar to the “For reeaall” feeling, but not the same thing. This Saturday a member of my RWA chapter and I spent the afternoon speaking to teenagers about writing powerful and memorable heroines. Yes, I said teenagers. Now you have to know I prayed before going there. Because first, I don’t like speaking in front of people and...did I mention teenagers?? My son starts to get that “Oh look at the pretty flowers” look in his eyes when I talk and he has to listen to me! So imagine my anxiety! I went in there with a bit of a nervous stomach and those kids looked at me...and I looked at them…and the Tilt-a-Whirl in my gut came to an abrupt halt. Lisa, my friend from my chapter, had already arrived, and begun the workshop. I dived right in and, together, we had a wonderful experience. Time seemed non-existent as all of us started talking about a topic we loved—reading and writing. These kids were amazing! Simply amazing! I was in awe of their minds! The creativity, emotion, characters, plot...if I was a wee bit less ethical one of their plots might have turned up in my book!!

At one point a sixteen year-old girl read aloud the characteristics from her brainstorm list, and started detailing the plot. I’m not going to give it away, but one moment I’m leaning forward and the next I’m pinned to the back of my chair, blown away by her plot twist. All I’m going to reveal is it had to do with a circus, a gift, love and abandonment issues. Oh and a fire-eater. Okay, you had to be there. It was awesome! And that wasn’t even the “Wooow” moment. That came when a fifteen year old boy spoke about his character, a blacksmith, who desired to be more than this family job that was expected of him. The smile that came over his face as he talked about his hero...just wooow. My stomach did another flip, but this time in reaction to the joy and excitement in his grin over writing. I realized at that moment, that Lisa and I were looking at the authors whose books my children would read one day. The pleasure in those kids' eyes and faces as their characters and stories started to develop was priceless. Though we had come to instruct them on deepening their characters and bringing them to life, we were the ones honored to be there.

I think the revelation I received that day offset the stinging betrayal of hubby with the Footloose-Stomp-the-Yard debacle...it was close, though...


Wynter Daniels said...

How awesome that you got to help out some very young aspiring writers. Pat yourself on the back. And I am with you on those remakes. Think original, Hollywood!

Callie Croix said...

Fantastic of you to be giving back to the community like that. I think people dismiss/undervalue teenagers too much, mostly because they make assumptions that they're rude and self-centered. Your experience with them shows otherwise! Give the kids a chance, and they're bound to surprise you. (says me, whose children are young. I pray they turn out to be nice teenagers, lol.)

Michelle Polaris said...

I'm smiling here thinking about your day with the teenagers. How lucky you were. The thing we often forget about teenagers is the wonderful energy they bring to so many things because they are still new, and the way that opens up their minds to possibilities. It's easy to forget after hearing all their attitude. Way to go!

And sorry about the Footloose debacle. Marriage is a difficult thing.

Dalton Diaz said...

It is amazing how different teens are when it's not their mom or dad.

I get kudos on how helpful my boys are, and all I can think is, "They're talking about the same kid who can't be bothered to unball his dirty socks before they hit the laundry basket."

Casey Crow said...

When I had my dance studio, my favorite group of students to teach were the teenagers! Yours sound amazing!