tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post323348393323256169..comments2023-05-11T05:27:38.755-04:00Comments on Naughty Author Chicks: Soul MatesCindy Spencer Papehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01583236494759465431noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-71375963768019881422010-09-22T01:50:48.390-04:002010-09-22T01:50:48.390-04:00What a pragmatic group! :) I don't believe i...What a pragmatic group! :) I don't believe in a soul mate either. I know that when a person is happy, that person wants the state of happiness to stay forever. However, even for vampires, forever doesn't mean lack of personal growth. Who we are will change over time. "Soul mates" sound like the couple doesn't have to work on their relationship which, of course, is not true at all (even for eternal creatures, I would think).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-75097361875209389542010-09-21T13:41:41.040-04:002010-09-21T13:41:41.040-04:00I agree with everything said, but I do have one ob...I agree with everything said, but I do have one observation to throw in. Everyone knows that one couple, or perhaps 2 or 3, who stand out as a couple from everyone else. This couple is so well-connected that people around them can feel it, too. <br /><br />I've known people married over 50 years who still have it. Makes you wonder.Dalton Diazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05176463811948745241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-70250626253810407342010-09-20T20:10:35.394-04:002010-09-20T20:10:35.394-04:00Jina--good point about the vampires. It seems link...Jina--good point about the vampires. It seems linked to our fascination with the permanent and eternal, the part of us that wants all the answers and the perfect path forever. No matter how unrealistic it is.Michelle Polarishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03717774498289472190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-45785299457383503422010-09-20T16:22:19.467-04:002010-09-20T16:22:19.467-04:00Cara,
I too agree about the mistake to fixate on t...Cara,<br />I too agree about the mistake to fixate on the permanent. People do drift in and out of our lives and connect on many levels. Sometimes that feels like a painful process, but it is probably more true to how we or our souls best grow and develop.Michelle Polarisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-32302941207834572392010-09-20T15:41:31.856-04:002010-09-20T15:41:31.856-04:00Maybe that's one reason why vampires are so po...Maybe that's one reason why vampires are so popular, Michelle...they have all eternity to find their soul mate.Jina Bacarrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07858018049423464275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-65784838848190568952010-09-20T14:27:55.968-04:002010-09-20T14:27:55.968-04:00I'm with the majority on this one. At the risk...I'm with the majority on this one. At the risk of sounding predictably glib, I think the idea of soul mates is another byproduct of our fairytale-fixated popular Western consciousness.<br /><br />Personally, I believe we all have the potential to connect on that gut-brain-loins-spirit level with multiple people. Sometimes those relationships overlap, which can be terribly difficult to navigate and leave us racked with guilt if the One True Love myth is so ingrained. <br /><br />I also believe mated souls can drift apart, and that people can have more than one great love in their lifetime. Just because you don't follow through on the "until death" bit of the vows doesn't mean the people you've fallen utterly in love with (or formed a deep friendship bond with, which later faded as life evolved you) doesn't mean those relationships were less, or failures, or trial runs.<br /><br />My old broken record again: I think we as modern humans put way too much stock in permanence, labeling all the wonderful people we experience en route to finding the <i>last</i> wonderful person we'll commit to as road bumps, instead of destinations in themselves.Cara McKennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16654280974490334457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-759999441371838792010-09-20T13:52:19.251-04:002010-09-20T13:52:19.251-04:00Thanks for chiming in guys. I like the idea of puz...Thanks for chiming in guys. I like the idea of puzzle pieces fitting together. I do believe, aside from the issue of soul mates, that we meet people to help us learn certain lessons. Perhaps that's the direction I'll go in with my writing instead of the more limited soul mate theory. I do believe certain people reappear in your life over time. And as much as I am a very practical person who evaluates family patterns and understands repeating choices based on psychosocial issues, I'm not always sure my analytical, practical side has steered me right in life. Thanks again everyone for the thoughts.Michelle Polarishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03717774498289472190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-83543788225713753132010-09-20T10:27:36.211-04:002010-09-20T10:27:36.211-04:00I'm a pragmatic person, rather than a spiritua...I'm a pragmatic person, rather than a spiritual one, so I have to say that I don't believe in soul mates. We are the sum of our values, experiences, beliefs, backgrounds, family history, actions, etc. that make us likely to be attracted to certain types of people and them to us. It goes for both lovers and friends. (On the negative side of this, it's why some women keep repeating mistakes and get involved with all the wrong men).<br /><br />People who believe in soul mates seem to assume that they will MEET their soul mate. But what happens if you live Kentucky and your soul mate lives in Switzerland and you never meet? Or you don't meet your soul male until you're 69? Or you meet him/her at 25 and he/she dies in traffic accident at 30? Are you destined to never love again?<br /><br />As a romantic notion, it's a nice idea and makes for good fiction. There's something captivating about the notion of finding someone who is absolutely perfect for you and being irresistibly drawn to that person. Depending on how deep of a soul mate the person is, it would almost be a paranormal romance.Cara Bristolhttp://carabristol.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-68956900844950420342010-09-20T10:09:20.044-04:002010-09-20T10:09:20.044-04:00I'm with Wynter on this one. I believe in soul...I'm with Wynter on this one. I believe in soul mates but not necessarily in the romantic sense. I think my sister/best friend and I are soul mates in a way. Even if we weren't related I think we'd have become best friends b/c I think our souls are connected. Maybe that's b/c I can't imagine my life without her, I don't know. But soul mates as in two (or more) lovers created only for each other? I'm a total romantic but I don't really believe that love is limited like that.Katie Reushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18085461796363818906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-295035878432187803.post-40475626412444112012010-09-20T09:55:41.319-04:002010-09-20T09:55:41.319-04:00Hmm. Actual soul mates? I don't know that I be...Hmm. Actual soul mates? I don't know that I believe there's only one out there for each person, but I do believe that fate often brings people together for a reason, like puzzle pieces floating around in the cosmic mash looking for that perfect fit.Wynterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13611293420659353094noreply@blogger.com