This is not a naughty post. Get over it. No one can be naughty all the time, or it wouldn't be so much fun to be naughty. My babies went back to school yesterday, and this is what is on my mind.
So back to the un-naughty twin blog:
Once you have twins, you kind of wonder what the fascination is. Not that I wasn’t just as fascinated before having them, mind you. The truth is, they’re siblings. Period. For them, and for their parents, it’s peoples' fascination with it that is so strange.
Before mine came along, I remember asking my cousin if twins ran in her husband’s family after she had identical girls. I loved her answer. “Why do you think the man has anything to do with it? Do you think he came so hard he split the egg in two?” Er, no. Granted, that was over 20 years ago, but if they’ve figured out how the man factors into hereditary twins, I haven’t heard about it. And as far as I know, identical twins happen when one egg splits. It’s a mutation, hence why I call mine my little mutants. Could this signal come from the sperm? Perhaps. With fraternal twins, yes, sperm has to inseminate 2 eggs, but there have to be 2 eggs there in the first place. Oh, and if you’re thinking “But wait, you said your cousin...?” Sorry, she’s adopted.
But I’m getting off topic and I’m not really qualified to give those answers. This blog, strange as it is, is about the public fascination with twins. Let’s start with answering the most frequently asked questions over the last 16 years.
- No, they never spoke their own language or read each other’s minds.
- No, they do not like the same things. Quite the opposite.
- Yes, we did mix them up - all the time. (Tho only for a few seconds. When they got mobile, I color-coded them so I’d instantly know which one it was if they did something dangerous, when those few seconds really count. Bonus - we now know which is which in old pictures! It's easy now - one has long hair, one keeps a buzz cut.)
- They HATE being mistaken for each other
- Yes, they have mostly the same friends because they are the same age, live in the same town, and attend the same school.
- Having twins is physically harder during those “special” stages a toddler goes through, but at least you’re not staring at a younger one, wondering when the monster is going to make an appearance. My older 2 are 13 months apart, and that was much harder in the long run.
- No matter how "special" those monster moments are, one of them is not the "evil" or dominant twin. They each have their strengths just like any family member.
There are also those moments when someone knows something is different about them, but can't figure out what it is. I remember one woman who literally couldn't understand that they were born two minutes apart.
"How far apart are they?"She walked away still not understanding. Did I mention they're identical?
"I mean their ages. What's their age difference?"
"Um, 2 minutes."
There were a few randoms thrown at us over the years, but those are the FAQ’s. One thing, tho. I swear, I must have heard Double Trouble and/or Two for One at least twice a day for the first year. Double trouble? Sure, sometimes! But the latter is a lie. Everything costs double, and at 16 that means driving lessons, car insurance, and the little things that matter - like college.
That about covers it. Except one more thing:
Yeah, it's pretty cool.