I admit it. Spending my days writing romance stories chock full of steamy sex scenes, I occasionally find myself at a loss to put a fresh spin on a sex scene. I have resorted to researching the best way to handle certain unusual sexual situations. These queries always result in some very interesting information.
Say for example my hero and heroine are in or near a body of water when the sexual tension gods demand a sacrifice. I might research Best Sex Positions in Water. The plethora of ideas is mind-boggling! On Cosmo’s website alone I found the Tawdry Tube, the Randy Raft, the Canoodling Canoe, the Hot Tub Hug and my favorite discovery – Get a Leg Up!
And these positions are great after a couple’s already made love at least once. But for a first encounter, the Spider or the Cowgirl just won’t do. More often than not I choose the same position—at least at the beginning of the encounter—missionary style. Why? Intimacy. The lovers can look each other in the eyes and forge a deeper connection.
Missionary sex gets a lot of bad press as old fashioned or male chauvinistic, but for me, intimacy is way hotter than acrobatics. And according to research, it’s how most people had sex the very first time.
Not that acrobatics doesn’t have its place, mind you. I love putting my characters in creative sexual positions.And what’s the most popular position? I actually found an ezine article that claimed to have done a poll. The top three were all close but at least in 2008, doggie style won. I’ll be sure to let you know the 2009 results as soon as they are in. Actually, I may be busy writing a sex scene, so maybe not.